Generational Trauma

Heal.

So we don't have
another generation
of trauma
passing itself off as
culture.

This means we heal our relationships.
Especially the one with ourselves.
This is where it all begins.
Abandonment. Rejection. Enmeshment. Shame. Codependancy. Emotionally unfulfilling family dynamics.
We have the ability to heal by accepting responsibility for what is ours, what we allow, how we harm one another and how we assume another person is receiving us. It is essential to know what we need from another person so as to face what we believe to be conflict, which is in fact our desperation to express our needs and have them be fulfilled. We either evolve together or we part ways.
And if we never have the conversation, there is no possibility for growth.
To heal is to
transform the way things
have always been done.
To ask for something different than what is being offered.
Living our lives through rose coloured glasses (our personal perceptions, beliefs and our unconscious story) does not make us happy. It makes the outside world look pretty for awhile but it keeps us stagnant inside.
We stay with the comfort because it feels like the most real thing. We even stay with the pain (which is also the comfort) because it enforces our belief about who we are and what we deserve.

To heal is to continue
to have the hard conversations.
To destroy the long
lineage of
generational trauma
we must continue to question our pain and
our triggers
so we can see
how we deny those
parts of
ourselves.

The parts that just want to be loved.
And seen.
And heard.
And expressed.
And celebrated.

These are the parts
we must start loving fiercely.
The parts we suppress.
The things
that are mirrored
back to us
as what we reject in another person.

This is the work.